Have we been to busy for our kids?

I always said I liked being busy. I liked the days being filled with things to do but now I am starting to loathe being so busy. My days feel rushed and I often feel cheated. I feel like I have my finger in too many pies and a lot of things get left out. 

See we've have our busiest summer fitting in working/ volunteering at different community projects whilst fitting in our own jobs and family lives. Do not get me wrong we have loved it so much. My poor old blog got neglected as I took time to enjoy things. I sat and slouched on the sofa watching TV on my nights of. Now its all over were back to routine. The nights are pulling in, Summer feels well and truly over. Ive contemplated putting the heating on for my frozen toes its depressing. 

The kids have found it tough, they have been so busy they do not know what to do with themselves. They wander round emptying toy boxes. My eldest just wants to be in front of a screen and the babies fighting over anything and everything. I wonder did we over do it? We've seen a backlash from Ami and she's shown us some new bad behaviours. She never has been a rude child and now is on another level. They have been waking in the night sometimes for hours. Me and my husband are exhausted. Was it worth it? Im hoping this will settle down in the next few days. Questions are asked did we give the kids enough time? We were with them a lot but was it enough? Instead of staying out should we have missed it. We my heart says no but I am sometimes fat too free as a parent. 

I plan to turn the tv off, get off my phone and play with them. I always find this hard always have, I really have to force my self. Its something I always try to change. See I don't have many memories of my parents playing with me and I do not want that for my own children.  All children are different but mine do not have much interest in toys. Thinking I should ship them of to the charity shop I am sure they will then! Im lost really Ive forgotten being mum at home. Its only been a few weeks, I need to get that messy play out. Make things be creative with them. Its taken me 9 years but I am finally relaxing about paint. 

I think its just been hard going back to work normal hours, sorting school stuff out again. Our summer was great and we must not forget that. I would go through it again for a few days of being rocked about by the kids, because the memories they have made over the summer were awesome. They really are privileged kids. The summer is when they are most free and able to do things they usually can't (like drink Dr Peppa, ok that was once in desperation to try and keep the kids in the Marquee one really windy tent!!). Yes Our Summer was great. 

Heres some Photos of all the family. I was supposed to take a family shot for our last of the summer Nando's but completely forgot. So heres some random ones from the car!!

I love my little family. 

Till next Summer (Sob Sob) 

The diary of the last week 09th - 15th November

I decided to write a little diary of the week, just as a little reflection of our week. Now the weather is pulling in we do not tend to have as many adventures, with that here is our little stories that make one massive awesomeness!

Sunday 9th November

Today we went along to our church the kids enjoyed their little clubs and then went to tescos where they messed up our click and collect order so had to go through the till anyway good fun, got £10 of our shopping. The boys went home to watch Arsenal and me and Ami went to her friends frozen party. My poor friend Leanne had booked a Elsa who seemed to hate children it was hilarious I started shouting out "cheer up Elsa it might never happen!" my other friend told me off as I might make her cry.

Ami being Elsa!

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Monday 10th November

We had our little community group at our house where myself and some mums meet and support each other how in what ways we can. There was 4 mums and 8 tots under 3 good fun, Ami and her friend disappeared into the kitchen where we found them in the kitchen eating ceareal was very funny, We walked to school along the coast and saw a lovely rainbow then came home same old really.

Rainbows On the school run today 🌈

Tuesday 11th November

I was on a long day where I did training for venna puncture and cannulation that was fun, being away from the family not so much. I decided to cycle all the way home in the rain actually enjoyed it till the seat broke and had to sit at a slant cycling!

Wednesday 12th November

Little Bear had his 12 month check at the local sure start centre, everything was fine and he is coming on well. Ami was not impressed as I told her there would be toys and there were none as we were in a little room! oops! Thankfully after we went to the soft play centre nearby where who should turn up as a surprise.. Daddy hurray! I think we were all pleased and he had taken the rest of the day of to help me out with after school clubs and all the jazz of our busy Wednesdays. We have not spent much time together lately so it was lovely.

Great thing about going to the soft play area with my husband is that he terrorised us by putting balls up the babies tops and throwing balls at me and the kids. One time even across the room that hit me in the head!

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Thursday 13th November
Another Long day for me leaving for work on a dodgy bike. Had a text to say Little bear was poorly and I just wanted to go home but still had millions of hours left till hometime. He did perk up and before I knew it 13 hours flew by and I was cycling home. Also on my way home fell of my bike and grazed my leg, some local youths witnessed and shouted do it again! I just picked my shopping up that had fallen out the basket on my bike and cycled home quickly shame intact (not)

Hubby sent me this picture of poorly son son, boo I want to be at home looking after him 😞

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Friday 14th November

Dressed the little ones in pudsey gear to join in with Children in need as forgot about it for Pants school, thankfully he did not have a fancy dress day. We had a chilled out morning then decided to go to my eldest sons school church service which was eventful. Ami spent the whole time before excited as she was going to a different church then spent ages waiting to see Pants, when she finally saw him she shouted out "thats my brother" and he replied "Dont embarrass me!" good sport he is! She saw her cousin who gave her a high five. We then had to leave the church as Ami was shouting "I dont like this church" and Little bear had a bad cough so we popped into the babies nursery to buy some cakes for Children in need. We got Pants from school and went home they wanted to play lego and it got everywhere! Still finding it now Little bear who is 1 on Monday took great joy in throwing it all over the floor! Then babies did not stop crying so they went to bed early and me and Pants watched Children in Need, Pants found it sad and cried a few times.

Urm mum what are you doing?

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Saturday 15th November

The babies got up at 6 and as much as my poor eyes needed more sleep I was forced up. Ami went of to wake Pants who did not realise I was awake and took her downstairs so I could sleep a bit longer, he even closed my door the sweetie. He then (a bit later) had a football match where his team won 14 nil. He also got man of the match and played well. We then went to another party and Pants went of with his grandad as he find toddler parties rather dull. We waited for Daddy to come home from being away with work and had a family Chinese.

Aston got man of the match today after 14 nil win!

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Midweek Chill

Our weeks have become so busy, what with me working and the kids at nursery at school I really look forward to my days off. Especially my Wednesdays. I am starting to be less knackered from working and see it as a day with me and my babies. My eldest is at after school club so there is no rush to do anything.

I have started to enjoy these days even more mainly because I have started to not feel so guilty about not doing much. Also not beating myself up if we are not dressed by midday or Peppa pig has been on too much. There is a million and one things left but we still sit on the floor and have a little play. Also just doing home stuff I enjoy it, makes me want the best of both worlds. Torn between the freedom of work and the enjoyment of being at home. I suppose I do have best of both and I am very blessed.

To an outsider these days may seem a little dull, or maybe not that stimulating for the kids but me and the babies just enjoy being together. I hate starting work before they get up and coming home when they are fast asleep its great to have some us time. No rushing anywhere just us and lots of cuddles.

They will only stay small for a short period and before I know they will be going to school and I will have that time on my own, but until then we shall do our nothing days and our not get dressed till lunchtime days. Life is a hurry sometimes its good to take a step back and try to enjoy the time.

being a mum

Some days i just love being a mum, i love everything about it! School runs also! but other days i could easily hop on a plane go somewhere hot! some days it can be a relief just to go to work! although i haven't been to work for 8months as on maternity leave! am actually looking forward to going back! i was chatting to some mum friends of mine and they were saying that they liked work as they get an hour break and no changing nappies or looking after someone! i thought lucky them i go to work do exactly what i do at home but on a adult scale! the highlights of being a nurse!

Anyway I do love my children very much they cause me much delight! they are both so different and funny! Pants is very outgoing, very noisy, cheeky but defiantly not boring! very clever not sure where he got that from! its sad when a 6 year old has to show you how to do things on a ipod! and Ami just as sweet shes just starting to develop a personality she already seems very chilled out very much like her dad!

my day goes like this wake up to either husbands alarm/ Ami crying/ pants shoving ipod in my face asking me to download him a game! i then get Ami feed her whilst trying to get my husband to wake up so i don't have to quickly make the packed lunches  or the forcing pants to get dressed bribeing him with nuttella on toast as a reward for getting dressed! by this time Ami is bored of staying in bed! wants to explore elsewhere so of we go into our lounge! i then pick up the carnage from pants! and my husband takes pants to school! most days something is forgotten book bag/lunch box/ scooter!
this is all before 9am

what joy but then i wouldnt change it! ive been a mum since i was a teenager its all ive known i never had those care free years of being an adult, spending all day in bed! not having to sort childcare out if i want to do anything on my own!  that's the dream! one day when the kids are adults i shall have my time then! i plan to do alot of missionary work maybe we will take the kids with us! i dont know what the future holds but i do know god has some awesome plans for us! so if were still blogging i hope you enjoy the ride!


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