Sunday 26 April 2015

A Mothers Love - My Son will Always Be my Sunshine

There is something that bugs me a child with no manners and a child with no respect. Well push comes to shove I will admit hat sometimes I have a child like that, I have a child that forever likes to challenge and push boundaries. I have a child that has to be asked to say sorry and a child who does not like to admit they are wrong.

There's always a bugbear we have, its quick to pin point some behaviour of another child but very hard to see it in your own child, because to you sometimes that said child could do no wrong and for someone to say that makes you go into hyper protective mode and feel cross. 

My eldest is 8 and a half and has always pushed boundaries, we have had endless phone calls, banning from matches and general misbehaviour. Some I'm not so proud of I have tried my best. He has always been a character, he is lively and full of personality. He does not do well being forced to do something he doesn't want to do (like school lol). He fights for his way and is often labelled for that. Labelled as a trouble maker. I've seen it first hand especially at football. three boys could be misbehaving and poor Asti gets he blame time and time again. He once said to me there is no point being good as they blame me for everything any way. 

This makes me sad makes me feel like I've failed somewhere in parenting.  Deep down I know it's not me, he hurts a lot from a dad that doesn't bother and although we try our best to be the perfect family it plays a part in his life. My husband came on the scene when Asti was three and was instantly that role he never really experienced. He has had to deal with new siblings and getting a lot less attention.  I try to protect and stick up. I try to teach the right way and try to get him to stick his head down because he has a lot of potential. He just needs to focus it in the right way. 

It's hard work and me and my husband are trying to invest more time with him. We don't want him to grow up not respecting other people. That is not who he is, not my Asti I see at home that is kind and helpful. He isn't all the time and often is quick to answer back but then what child isn't I was the worse for it as a child. We are trying to do more as a family and not falling back into letting him play video games as it keeps him quiet. Trying to not crush him for the things he is good at and generally trying to be the best parents we can.

So there a post I needed to get of my chest, my son is awesome and we are trying our best. He may wind people up but I wish they would look past it all and see that bright boy there. He is only 8 years old. Remember don't put other people's kids down because mums are a massive force to reckon with.




12 comments:

  1. Boys get a second massive testosterone surge at 8, it can be a really challenging age. Just be consistent, persistent and teach by example, my horrendous 8 year old is a loving, polite 13 year old now!

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  2. A few of my friends have said when their sons reached 8/9 they have been more of a challenge then have calmed down again. You are doing a fantastic job, you are a great mum! x

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  3. Your such an amazing Mum and an inspiration. I'm sure his behaviour will soon settle down as he grows xx

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  4. I know how hard it is to have a son who is constantly being blamed - even for things that haven't happened! You are giving him all your support and keep giving it. You know who your child is and don't let anyone try to tell you or him otherwise.

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  5. What a lovely looking boy. I have an 8 year old and they definitely like to push the boundaries and are hard work! He sounds lucky to have a mum like you though, ready to fight in his corner.

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  6. I don't have any wise words of advice, so I shall just say good luck - it sounds like you are a great Mum.

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  7. I am going through similar with my girl she is twelve , her dad does not bother with her and she has had to put up with a stepdad and then two siblings all the space of three years. So she is playing up at times, pushing boundaries, being cheeky. He is lucky to have a mum like you who clearly adores him x

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  8. I have lots of cousins who went through tough times at this age. So early and yet life is already hard. Sending you hugs and thanks for sharing this. #sharewithme

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  9. A lovely post and I hope he finds his middle and happy ground
    You sound like you are doing a fab job

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  10. Oh hunny what an absolutely beautiful post. Of course he will always be your sunshine. You are doing an amazing job hunny. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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  11. I have a big bro who drives Mummy mad, but he is her sunshine too. Boys are trockier than girls I guess! You're doing fab x

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  12. I think you are a wonderful mum and it shows he has a lot of support which is the most important thing x

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