Today my sister picked up my son to find a Nan at the school gate saying "so thats the one Bullying you!" On hearing this my heart sank. Every part of me wants this not to be the case, but I know there is a chance it is true.
You see no Mum wants there child to be mean, No mum wants there child to be talked about and the one other parents are warned against. It makes me rather sad to hear it. My Son has always been the first to get into trouble, he is loud and confidant and says what he thinks, he has no fear of authority and does not understand the consequences of his actions. I wonder where and how he has turned out sometimes so head strong as I am so shy. I know that this attitude will be great when he is older but now has a few teething years trying to mature.
I make excuses I do not want to be a failing mum. I feel like I have let my son down, maybe I have been too laid back with him. not spend enough time together as a family. I just do not know. Its horrible because this Nan is a playground regular with a loud voice and it will be all over the playground in no time and then the judgy looks. Not that I mind I do not care what people think but I do care what they think of my son. Its hard so very hard.
I do not know what to do, I made him write a card and say sorry he did not want to he said the boy is mean to him all the time but I said he needed to. We do not behave like that and to try to get him to see we were upset with him. See it was not just this I had two phone calls from the school today too, one about match attacks and stealing cards and another him saying he has been watching 18 films and playing call of duty. So all in all not a great day for him today.
I am not the mum of a bully I refuse to accept that. He is not! He is a good hyper good spirited boy and I wont have viscous rumors spread round. Its not on and quite frankly the Nan should have had a word with me or the teacher rather than shouting it out at him at the school gates. I shall give the school a call to find out what happened and I bet its nothing. I really hope it is. I am a firm believer of getting things sorted out in school, I think as soon as the parents get involved it gets complicated, I want my son to be able to sort things out with out me. Its worse for the other parent and I wish that people would see that. Like when your at soft play and some kid hits yours, I feel sorry for the parent its so embarrassing for them. Not everyone things like this though. Its tough.
So if you have any advice on a 8 year old boy and how I can help, what can make me feel like I am going intthe right track please let me know?